I recently wrote a blog entitled, “Your Divorce is Final – 5 Things you need to do”. As a follow-up to that post, I decided to address what you need to know, as well, to achieve happiness in the aftermath of your divorce. If you have not already done so, I encourage you to read my previous blog regarding helpful steps to take, once your case is complete. Okay, so now that you have actively let go of anger, mourned the ending of your marriage, have pursued and continue to …

1. Let go of Anger:

There is a Buddhist quote that states, “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” I think this quote says it all. During the divorce process, your spouse, friends and loved ones have probably let you down in one way or another, while you were busy navigating the painful process of getting divorced. Now that your case is over, you need to find a way to let go of the ill will you feel toward others that resulted …

There is no such thing as a “one size fits all” divorce. Universally though, anyone who has gone through the process can attest to the fact that it is one of the most painful experiences you will encounter in your life. Having been a divorce attorney for over 20 years, here are some thoughts to consider if you have been through divorce already or have decided to take the plunge.

1. Your decision to end your marriage will scare a lot of your friends and family, for a myriad of …

Beginning a new relationship after divorce can be tricky, particularly if there are minor children involved. I find in my divorce practice that some jump into dating fairly quickly to avoid the loneliness that inevitably comes after the break up, while others remain gun shy about entering the world of romance. Whatever your circumstances post-divorce, here are some tips to make the world of dating better for you and your children:

1. Always let your children know they come first, no matter who you are dating. Remain “child-centric” at all …

Okay, so, you are divorced or about to end your marriage. With the new year approaching, it is not a bad idea to create a list of resolutions, designed especially to make your ex (or soon-to-be-ex) easier to deal with in the new year for you and your children.

Before you commit to some or all of these resolutions, you might want to invoke a ritual to help you transition into a new mindset. Create something that makes these changes really feel like an important decision and therefore, easier to …

With the holidays approaching as quickly as the temperatures are dropping, we’re reminded that this season is about peace, harmony and good will. But if you’re a divorced parent who has to share time with your children this holiday season, it may not be that joyful –unless you plan ahead. Here are six tips to help you survive (and even enjoy!) this holiday season:

1. Remain “child-centric” at all times. I am a strong believer that a child’s needs always coming first. I remind clients to ask themselves what their child

I recently spoke with a well-known real estate appraiser, in the metropolitan Detroit area, about home appraisals. During the conversation, we got to talking about his divorce from his first wife. He had met his wife when they were both 10 years old. They were married for 25 years and had 4 children together. After years of marriage, the couple grew apart and decided to call it quits. How do you end a marriage that has lasted a quarter of a century with a woman you met when you had …

I have noticed a trend lately, in which divorces are instigated by educated individuals in their 40’s. The profile of the 40-something I am describing looks something like this:

– Got married in their 20’s, sometime after completing college;

– Focused on career development after marriage;

– After becoming established in a profession, began to have children in their early 30’s;

– Gave primary attention and focus to their young children through early adolescence (typically the wife/mother) but may also have continued to focus on career advancement;

-If one spouse …