I have written many times about resolutions for the New Year, that are designed to promote better co-parenting with your ex-spouse. It’s an important topic for you and your children, all the time, but for most of us, the start of a new year is the time when we give pause and reflect on how to be better versions of ourselves.
Regardless of how you feel about your former husband or wife, the two of you can agree on the fact that you love the children, the two of you brought into the world together, more than anything. After all, our children are the most important thing in our lives and, thus, they deserve the most attention when we are focusing on resolutions. So, in the new year, while you are making resolutions, to do such things as exercise more, eat healthier, or save more money, why not include a child-centric resolution that benefits your kids? One of the greatest gifts you can give your children this year, is a better version of you. By making positive changes in yourself this year, you will, undoubtedly, improve your relationship with your child’s other parent.
There are no easy fixes for improving your relationship with your child’s other parent, even for the benefit of your child. So where should you begin? As I have said many times, while we cannot change our ex’s behavior, we can change our own conduct. That is where we, as parents, must begin and here are a few do-able resolutions that will help us to, not only be better parents, but better co-parents in the new year:
Commitment to self-care and self-improvement this year is a goal we should all have. Beginning with a better self will almost always bring about positive changes in everyone close to you. You will be amazed by just how changing things in yourself (improving on the negative and pumping up the positive) makes your former wife or husband a better parent, too.